Tuesday, October 20, 2009
Hubby Woes
Let's continue the woes. To begin, this one is not about my hubby. To protect the person's privacy, I'll not use names though some may know whom I'm discussing. She asked her husband for a divorce, in which he started the name calling and accusations. She asked for a non-contested divorce, split everything, including custody. He argued. She hired an attorney, he decided to negotiate. Things should be simple, but they're not. He dragged out the negotiations, so she held off filing divorce papers, hoping this could end amicably. He is in the military and announced this week, he will be deployed to Afghanistan in x weeks and will be gone for well over a year. She can't file papers while he's deployed. Which leaves her legally married to him, but they've separated their accounts in preparation for the divorce, and he's giving her barely enough to support their child (1/2 the daycare cost). She's trapped and he's using the military as a ploy to hurt her. The real shame in this is his child will be harmed in the fact that he's not supporting the child.
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sounds like a mess to me. Why can't she go through with the divorce. I thought people got divorced all of the time while in the military. It would probably string it out a little longer because there would be all those military things to jump through. Here is an interesting website: http://family-law.lawyers.com/divorce/Military-divorce.html.
Whatever, the end result, it doesn't sound like he is going to give in easily and some lawyer is going to be making some money.
I don't know what to say. I'm grateful that my ex wasn't a jerk about our divorce. I'm appalled that there are people who can't put their children's interests first.
While the person is deployed in a war zone, they can't be involved in legal issues back home that can affect them. If she had filed the papers before he left, it would have stopped him from being deployed. He knew this which is why he dragged the negotiations out. I believe he's not smart enough to realize how this will look when he returns and they begin the process again. If he's not helping that much with the child, it will look bad for him.
He's not thinking about the kid. It sounds like a big power game to him and he's afraid of coming out looking like a loser that way instead of looking like a loser as a person for being a jerk! Sounds very similar to what Mandy went through except Rob was home and playing those power games.
Can't she file before he's gone, though? It sounds like he's not actually gone yet. Get her hence to the courthouse!
He has to be served papers before deployment, which is soon (not allowed to say). He's not stationed in the states currently, so she has to have the papers filed with the local court and him served internationally. It won't happen in the allotted time.
I just gotta say that the husband is an f*&$ing a#@hole and she should just view this behavior as yet more proof that she is making the right decision.
I'm so sorry for this whole horrible experience, and of course for the child, most of all.
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