Hubby and I celebrate our 8th Wedding Anniversary today. It's a bit startling to realize we've been together that long and at the same time it feels as if we've been together forever. This anniversary has a bit of a shadow over it though. Hubby and I have struggled the past few years with living apart due to our employment situation. We both have great jobs that we each love, but they're in different towns. I think the distance has slowly taken its toll on us. Add in my health crisis and everything that goes with it and this year was rather unpleasant and has left its scars.
Delia mentioned she thought the first couple years of marriage are the hardest, while Steve joked about beating the seven year itch. I would state for the record, the 7th year was the hardest for me so far, though not for the normal reasons. Our initial time as a married couple seemed easy. We just fell into being with each other and seemed in-tune. We moved several times for my job, he was laid off, and we lost his wonderful mother, yet we were in sync the whole time. I wish the same could be said for the past year. The conversation with Delia and Steve has me thinking, when was your most difficult year of marriage? Was it when you were first learning how to live with your spouse, after the birth of a child, or death in the family?
As for myself, I'm looking forward to many more years with hubby.
Subscribe to:
Post Comments (Atom)
3 comments:
I've been married s-o-o long I've forgotten the early years. Let's see, 8 years...I think that may have been a good year, except for having no money. Although I think I was rather wishy-washy in those days and afraid of saying what I wanted for fear of being alone. Now I want to be alone, and get annoyed at the chatter coming from the left side of the room. I think marriages go through cycles, some good some bad and if you stick it out after 40 years you still have someone who hogs the covers.
The first one was fine. It was the next 24 that were the challenge. Sort of kidding. Kay is right that there were ups and downs. Year 4 was a tough year. Then things were better when we were having our kids. The biggest difficulty comes when there are serious underlying issues that are not addressed.
I agree with Kay, ups and downs. Much as I love Hubby, there were times when I may not have liked him a whole lot (and visa versa, I KNOW!) but we just kept sticking with it. It would go from "hmm, you annoy me..." to "huh, you're fun to be with..." to "mmm, sweetie!" We learned that sticking throughthe annoyed stage reaps rewards!
Post a Comment