Men Behaving Badly

Becky and I went out on Saturday night to see our favorite band perform. The band was fantastic as usual, but the crowd left much to be desired. We should have known circumstances would be different, since the crowd consisted of more men than women. I'm not sure if it was due to the bachelor party or not, but either way, I have a message for you men, some of us women really don't care to be hit on and especially since the format you have chosen is honestly, repulsive and disgusting. And because the dance floor is so crowded that women don't run from you screaming because they would lose a prime spot to watch the band, doesn't mean they want you to continue.

Let's start with married guy # 1. Becky and I were dancing to some hip hop during the break, which yes, means I shake my hips and yes, I am still capable of shimmying to the ground. Typical behavior on the dance floor. Becky told me we had an audience, but didn't want me to turn around, so I didn't. Come to find out later, the men from the bachelor party were ogling us, mouths hanging open apparently. Then guy # 1 liked one of my moves and pumped his arm, while shouting "oh yeah!" Thank God, I wasn't a witness to this. It was mortifying to hear about it. He then came and stood next to Becky. I mean literally stood there while we danced. Becky and I have learned long ago about the stalker move. You avoid eye contact at all costs. Later, when the band was performing, he tried this move multiple times with us. And at one point, blatantly caressed part of my anatomy.

As if that wasn't bad enough then there was married guy # 2. He tried to play it suave from the get go. I informed him that his come on actually was insulting. Did that deter him? No! I pointed out his wedding band and mine, which led to him showing me a pic of his kid. If you've ever been to see a band, you know standing in front of the stage, it is way too loud to have a conversation, so I missed half of what he was saying. He asked what it would take to get me to dance with him, which I rebuffed, he told me I was hot, I rebuffed. Come on dude, accept it. He then tried to dance up behind me. I kept trying to side step because it really was crowded. At which point, Becky upon watching all this, grabbed my hand and waved my wedding ring in his face, telling him, she's married. He thought she wanted to dance with him. Later, he came back around and told me I was too fast for him. Somewhere in the middle of this, another woman approached me to tell me to beware the bachelor party. Yea! Really?

Guy # 3 was the final straw. He was slobbering drunk and tried to grind up against my back. At some point as I tried to get away, he managed to spill a huge portion of his drink down my back. He then started grinding up behind Becky. His friends eventually grabbed him off her.

For you losers out there who believe this is acceptable behavior, I have to tell you, get a life. Some of us women actually do go to the bar to listen to the music and dance, not to be hit on. I'm all for flirting and love to flirt, but there is a difference between vulgarity and flirting. And seriously dude, after the first rebuff, back off. If the floor hadn't been so crowded, I would have seriously elbowed the guy hard.