The Hubby Report

I try to be open and honest on this blog while sharing my life with those who read my bouts of fancy, but only a handful of people are aware that hubby and I had a rough patch last year. Considering our living arrangements, our marriage is one that requires communication, honesty, and lots of effort to maintain a healthy relationship. Unfortunately, hubby and I both failed in handling my health crisis last year and hurt each other horribly. I honestly don't know how we've managed to overcome our marital crisis, except to say, we love, respect, and appreciate each other very much.

So I became concerned earlier this fall when I looked at my schedule and discovered my personal time with the gals and work schedule had overfilled my calendar. Plus I was facing another health crisis, though not as severe as last year. My fears grew and I worried that we wouldn't be able to face this situation again. Between my work schedule, attending the conference, and taking my vacation with Mich, I managed to spend one weekend with hubby in Sept. I worried he would resent my work and friends, but instead, we promised to maintain constant communication during this time. Instead of hearing how annoyed he was at me being gone, I regaled him with crazy stories of my adventures and let him know how much I hated being away from him. And in return, he was supportive, watching the animals, paying the sitter, doing laundry, and baking cookies for my return.

The other weekend, I had a bad reaction to my new meds and suffered through neurological distress, including chest pains, confusion, and panic attacks. Hubby helped me remain calm during this time and didn't shrug off how I was feeling, which was a change. Then this weekend while reviewing our schedules, hubby mentioned he wasn't planning to come home since I'm working the Summit. Deciding to learn from my previous mistakes, I stressed to him how scared I've been since my attack and how much it means to me to have just a tiny bit of time with him, so he agreed to come home.

So I had to share how great the hubby has been recently and how I'm learning to ask for help rather than trying to handle everything on my own. A huge learning curve for me, but one worth learning.