House Update

Just to keep everyone informed about the house hunt. We decided against the house in B* Hills. There were way too many issues from the electrical, the appliances, including air conditioning, water heater, etc., linking to city water, and all the cosmetic issues. I know others can live with the electrical situation that we were facing, but we could not, especially since my father, who is an electrical engineer, was very insistent about the situation. So it is back to the drawing board for us.

This whole experience has been interesting to me because hubby and I have differing personalities. I am very analytical in my decision making. I gather all the facts, lay them out, research things I don't understand, weigh the pros and cons, and make a decision. Even if I'm uncertain that I've made the right decision, I go forward because I have the facts backing me up. On the other hand, hubby goes with the gut reaction, which is usually negative. I'm the half-full partner, while he is the half-empty one. And even with all the facts in place, hubby still struggles with the final decision.

With the house discussion, these differences have become exponential. The bigger dilemma is hubby admits he is completely incapable of making a big decision and will never be able to make a final decision on a house, career, the kid question, etc., yet he refuses to grant me more control in making the decisions (which is funny when you consider his decision to marry me since I was the skittish one and he knew what he wanted). Currently, I give him all the facts, asking for his input and advice, which is as it should be, but we need a middle ground, where he would accept that I can make the decision unless he is completely adverse to it.

As we muddle along trying to find the right path, we are going forward with looking for a house. Hubby understands with the monetary issue that I have presented him concerning our financial situation that a house is a better option, but he doesn't fully agree with my mindset. I can relate to his fears over money but I never experienced the poverty of his childhood. And though my parents taught me the importance of good financial standing and savings, they also ingrained in me that there are other values more important than money.

So that is the update. It has been a wild ride so far.