Let's Talk About Sex

I apologize to all the men out there who have ever been unfairly accused of being pervs, especially since it was probably based on the theory that men think and talk about sex more than women. This is such a generic statement and has no basis in reality. I can promise that sex is a regular topic of conversation between me and my female friends while it is rare among my male friends. And yes, I know there is the assumption that men discuss the cruder topics more than women, but I would argue against that belief. Considering some of the comments I have heard from women concerning a man's physique and stamina, women can be just as crude. So let's discuss sex! A topic of conversation that has become commonplace recently involves dry spells and I'm curious if men and women view this topic differently.

My gals are probably rolling their eyes because they know my very strong and vocal opinion concerning single people and dry spells. Have a fling! I do not recommend this for someone in a relationship, but for those who are single, go have fun! Find someone in your life who you find attractive, but recognize the person is not a potential long-term possibility. I recommend someone who is quite different from you that way the attraction may remain superficial but you can test yourself by trying new things. If you're not worried about impressing the person, you might be willing to experiment more. Having a fling can boost your ego, help with self-discovery, and push your limits. Imagine someone as type-A as me with a Cuban artist who reveled in the open-anything-goes liberal lifestyle. A person can learn a lot about hidden interests and needs while in a safe environment so why not take advantage? I understand not everyone feels comfortable with the concept of flings, so what would be another recommendation to ending a single person's dry spell besides those toys of ours?

For those who are married, it is a question of timing and frequency, but not all couples have a regular sex life. Sorry to tell those who are single, but marriage does not guarantee an active sex life either. There are many married people who suffer from long dry spells. This is when our friend, the sex toy, once again can be an amazing resource. Obviously couples should address the issues that are preventing them from being intimate, but the reasons may be beyond their control. When aware of these reasons, can the couple live with these circumstances? Each couple is different so the answer varies. But does this mean there is not an emotional connection?

I have a married friend who "schedules" sex just as a person would schedule a date. My friend believes that a couple should have weekly intercourse otherwise there is a loss of connection between the couple. Does that sound accurate to others? How often should a couple expect to have sex? And a better question ... when life gets in the way, how long should a couple wait before forcing the issue and planning an intimate moment? And I know there are some who believe it should come naturally and should never be planned. What do you think?

Any thoughts or responses to this subject? I'm quite vocal about my opinion and would love to hear from other people. And yes, you can comment anonymously if it makes you feel better.