A Lesson in Seduction

GNO

Warning: This one might be shocking!

My how things have changed in the past decade. Not that I'm dating as of yet, but after some things that have caught my attention the past few weeks, I may consider never dating.

I am definitely not the definition of a prude but the world seems to have dramatically changed in what is acceptable public behavior. I will be perfectly honest here. In the past, I have been asked to participate in sexual activities such as bondage, public sex, toys, pics, videos, voyeurism both ways, a variety of threesomes (F/F/M, M/F/M, M/M/F), and much more but that's nothing in comparison to the education I have received recently. It's made me rethink ever vocalizing things I find appealing, such as the following samples.

A man who knows what he wants is attractive. Maybe? A friend was reading details off of a guy's online profile and I didn't know something he mentioned as a sexual preference. Holy shit! I shouldn't have asked. Another one used some interesting terms to describe his S&M lifestyle. 

I have always found a man who can be upfront and honest about his desires sexy. Unless ... Within the first few minutes of a coffee date, a woman should not be asked if she'll ... in polite terms, perform a proctol massage. Thanks for sharing that story, I'm seriously rethinking coffee dates as a safe venue.

I want a man to grab me passionately and take control. Huh! Or so the fantasy went. Definitely not when we've never spoken to each other or upon first acquaintance. This resulted in me shoving a guy and slamming my arms out to block him.

Courtesy of TOA page

Then there was our GNO to see TOA this weekend. Before I get started I chose this pic because it featured Shane and Troy, two of my favorite gals favorite guys. I won't say anything else except the bad boy and sweetheart, gals! Most of my "men behaving badly" posts have been due to someone misbehaving at one of their performances. 

Now I know, I've danced provacotively in cages, on catwalks and bartops, rotating dance floors, and have no issue with some sexual stimulation on the dance floor. What I don't understand is the simulated sex acts and quite often with multiple partners. How is this sexy?

And here's the real lesson after the things I witnessed this weekend ... if all the guy is capable of doing is thrusting on the dance floor, then run away gals! Because that is all he'll know how to do in the bedroom or wherever. Dancing should be seductive, an opportunity for teasing touches, illicit brushing of bodies, which can lead to more or nothing. But what currently passes for temptation makes me want to laugh. Seriously, if that's all you have to offer, I can get thrusting from well ... anywhere. They sell toys for that, you know!

All I can say is it's a real jungle out there, fascinating and terrifying at the same time. 

[Please keep in mind that this is a commentary. I can see someone misinterpreting what I've written.]