Sarai's comment on the last post raised another question:
"You know another thing I think is weird? When you
and one of your best friends decide to go on a girl's trip and someone
decides you must be lesbians. I find that very strange also. Right along
with the assumption that if one of your best friends is a guy, you must
be having an affair. Why is the concept of friendship so difficult for
some people to understand?
"
These limited mindsets greatly disturb me. I have always been a tomboy and felt more comfortable around men than women, so for decades most of my friends were of the opposite sex. I never gave it much thought when I would flirt, chat, or hang out with a guy until the past few years when some men crossed the line.
Most of the time hubby does not like to travel, yet he respects my compulsion to visit new places. He's relieved that Michelle is my travel buddy and we have joked about people believing Mich and I are a couple. One such situation involved the time that Mich and I decided to share a bed since it was cheaper. We received a raised eyebrow from the guy behind the counter. And when Mich and I visit the clubs, yes, we dance together or hold hands. And if you've seen us dance, you know it's not to entice anyone and the hand holding is more a life-preserver as we wade through the mass of bodies. Give me a break! And one of our neighbors assumed Becky and I were live-in girlfriends residing in my one bedroom apartment.
And I believe in the male/ female friendship though small-minded people will assume we're having an affair. My BF, August, was my go-to guy for everything. If I needed a date for a function, he was it. We hung out, flirted, and joked, but never did anything inappropriate though we had dated in the past. Another pal was Brog, who had a brief modeling career and oozed sex appeal. To say I was in lust with him does not do it justice. Brog hated the way my ex treated me and continuously tempted me to end the relationship by having a wild affair with him. All those years, I was with someone who regularly cheated on me, yet I could never break my commitment and accept Brog's offer. This is how I know that if you are in a committed relationship and believe in it that you can avoid cheating. And hubby was uncomfortable when I began talking regularly about my friend, Tim, who I shared a lot in common with including being very committed to our spouses, so nothing wayward ever entered my mind. Yet other people viewed these relationships as potentials for affairs.
I don't see anything wrong with female/female or male/female friendships. Why can't we be adults and have both without it being sexual in nature?
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2 comments:
Obviously, I agree! :)
While I have both male and female friends, I think my closest are females. Although, I am quite comfortable being with my male friends. However, as far as my male friends, I'm not sure what their take is on male/female friendship. I think that a lot of them would slip into the intimate hoo-hoo if given the eyebrow lift and not really think twice about how it would affect friendship.
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