Warning: This is not a male-bashing post, rather a plea for explanation. For the men in my life, if you're in my life, I think you're a great guy which is why I need some help with understanding these scenarios. I promise I'm not bashing you.
I have documented men behaving badly on this blog a few too many times. When I've asked the males in my life how this behavior is acceptable, I've been told by several people that men think of sex, friendships, relationships, and all around general behaviors differently than women. I have even been told, by a friend who I won't out on this blog, that my dancing and flirty behavior does tell some men that I'm interested though I'm not. But what's truly amazing to me is how some good men make some stupendously bad choices. When Mich and I converse about hubby or my male friends, her almost weekly response is "they're boys and they're dumb!"
So let's share some of these moments that can numb the mind because I would love for someone to explain the behaviors or statements below. Identities have been stripped from these examples so please don't name the individuals in the comments.
- Before a big event, B criticized his wife's outfit. Then commented on another woman's appearance and recommended his wife ask the other woman for advice.
- C informed his wife that she is not his best friend. Spouses can't be best friends because you tell your best friend everything including complaining about your spouse. Also, you can choose your best friends, but you're trapped legally and financially with your spouse.
- D's wife offered to take him to supper after work. D asked his wife to invite her friend that he has a crush on.
- E recommended his wife not wear her wedding ring when she hangs out with friends at a bar. The reason given was E was afraid the ring might get lost.
- F sent his wife on a family trip with the kids, minus him.
Any thoughts on some of these situations? Do men and women view them differently? Each of these situations had a clear explanation from the men involved but none have made sense to us women, so far. So is Mich right? They are boys after all.
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3 comments:
They're not boys, they're idiots. I doubt that any guy would appreciate it if he were on the receiving end of most of these. Exception might be Situation D. I don't agree with his line of thinking and he clearly doesn't get out much--he doesn't understand that it's particularly important for an attractive woman to wear her ring when attempting a GNO at a bar.
Idiots.
Becky
I meant E. Now I'm an idiot.
Becky
I finally checked with DH, survivor of 38 years of marriage. He says:
B. "Jeez."
C. "Not good!"
D. "Been there & was stupid. Straightened up."
E. "Huh? This doesn't make sense, unless she drinks an awful lot."
F. "Depends on the circumstances. If he's busy and this is a treat, or it's something special she and the kids could like and he can't, then, OK. But not for a regular thing. If he's just sending them away, it sounds mighty suspicious."
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